The birth of militancy

Today I came across a news item about the murder convict Manu Sharma out on parole, but found enjoying in a night club.
The other news which has interested me since last few days is the arrest and interogation of erstwhile CM of Jharkhand Madhu Koda on his disproportionate assets case.I was aghast at the news of the amount of money he has embezzled.
Then another news item which I found indirectly has a bearing on the previous two news items, is the drastic efforts taken up by our esteemed home minister in trying to bring militancy under control.
Don't you think all the three news items are inter related?If the law and justice becomes a play thing in the hands of the rich and the mighty,what hope is there for the common man?
Would my son be set free to cool his iinsatiable hunger for night life,if he was a murder convict?No.Rather for him the delivery of justice will be so fast that he wont live to see any mercy appeal.As had happened with a watchman in bengal who had been accused of raping and murdering a minor of that building.
Would I be allowed to stack away my ill gotten black money, and to reach the opposition in the assembly, before being apprehended.No , 'cause I don't have the power nor the price to buy justice.
What message are we sending to the common man?
Are all the developments of a hitech India only required in the metros, or big cities?Don't we living in small towns require good concrete roads, superfast trains, airports ,telecommunication, good well equipped hospitals, good schools.quick delivery of justice ,proper policing etc?
Why are there honour killings in small towns, why are women still being annihilated in the garb of witchcraft?
Are we not paying taxes?
You will be surprised to hear that in places that I have worked, my relatives were reluctant to come 'cause of the absence of the above. I had to stay throught in small towns 'cause limestone is available in small places,where cement factories are set up.
I am not being selfish. Its not because I have suffered ,but I'm just giving an example to prove my point. If you are deprived of your right, some may recoil and bear it with a heavy heart ,but there are some who have seen the suffering, and these are the people who rise up in arms. I'm not justifying militancy, but I 'm trying to say that if the government delivers impartially and in all directions there will not be a hurry in an aftermath of maoist attack to rehabilitate the states tribals or its small town dwellers.
Am I right?

Me and my loneliness

Today I'm feeling a bit better,'cause my husband is returning from his seminar at Delhi,moreover, I had some very hearty talks with some of my old friends from previous factory.We exchanged some tips on our family ,some hilarious anecdotes were exchanged and that was enough to lift my mood.Lets see how long this sustains me.
I now realise how lonely my mother must be feeling when we were all engrossed in our studies and jobs.It had never occur ed to me at that time that we should sometimes sit down and exchange some thoughts with her. Now she is no longer with us ,but I miss her the most now.Wish god would give me a chance to rectify my mistake, but that's asking for the impossible.Whenever we six brothers and sisters meet we never fail to recount the sacrifices made by our mom, the difficult times she went through to sustain the family, without a whimper of complaint. But all is of no use when she is no longer with us.
Why were we not counselled on how to care for the feelings of the older people.It never occurred to me so long I was busy pursuing my career, that there is someone waiting anxiously at home for our news. Now when I have everything life can give you , I don't have the people with whom I would have loved to share these comfort.
As we are progressing towards a so called highly developed society, we are becoming more and more self centered.The children are so engrossed in their pursuit of excellence,that they are unknowingly loosing the touch of soft skills. There is only one reply when you contact them ,"I'm busy now, I'll call you later."That later may never come, as it never came for me.I still regret ,not being with my parents or in laws when they breathed their last.I only pray to god to give them a happier and more full life in their next incarnation.

The lonely mother/wife

मैं अपनी नौकरी से इस्तीफा दे कर अपने पति के साथ रहने लगी.जब नौकरी थी तब मरीजों के साथ २४ घंटे ब्यस्त रहती थी, घर में बच्चों और पति के साथ समय बिताने का समय हिन् नहीं मिलता था.सोचा था नौकरी छोर कर जो मजा आज तक नहीं उठाया, वो उठा लूंगी.कुछ दिन तो कालोनी लाइफ खूब एन्जॉय किया,पर जब मेरे पति साउथ में एक सीमेंट कंपनी ज्वाइन किए तभी से मेरे लोनेलिनेस का सिलसिला शुरू हुआ.भाषा तो जान ती नही थी , ऊपर से शहर के बहार का लोकेशन, मुझे दिन भर अकेले बैठे रहना परता था , जो की मेरे पेर्सोनालिटी के साथ तालमेल नही खता था,मुझे धीरे धीरे लोनेलिनेस ने आ घेरा। मैं जी जान से कोशिश करती हूँ लोगों के साथ कम्युनिकेशन करने का पर तेलेगु के बिना किस्सी से दोस्ती नहीं कर पाई हूँ.मैं पेशे से डॉक्टर हूँ, तो कोई अल्तेर्नातिवे जॉब भी नही कर पा रही हूँ, अपने पुराने दोस्तों से फ़ोन पर बातें कर के मन बहला लेती हूँ.मुझे बार बार यही डर लग रहा है , की अगर मेरे पति का कहीं नॉर्थ में जल्दी ट्रान्सफर नहीं हुआ, तो कही मैं अकेले पण के कारन पेर्मनेंत्ली डिप्रेशन में न हाली जाऊं। फिर लोग मुझे पागल कह कर तिरस्कार न करने लगें.शहर से इतनी कट ऑफ़ है ये जगह की मैं अपने आप से कुछ कर भी नही पा रही हूँ। बच्चे भी अपनी नै नौकरी में खुश हैं, मैं उन्हें उपनी तकलीफ बता कर उनको परेशां नही करना चाहती.मुझे समझ में नही आ रहा की में अपने आप को किस तरह ब्यास्ता रखू। सोशल वर्क करने के लिए भी तो लोकल भाषा का ज्ञान जरूरी है।
Will someone provide me some assistance as to how to keep myself from going mad.

The widening rift.

This is my personal feeling which i'm trying to write down here as I'm unable to talk it out with any one.Iresigned from my job about two years ago, 'cause the presence of my husband in the same company was creating many difficult situations for me. e.g. He was very highly placed, everyone or two years he was transferred,without me being transferred.Every time I had to face very unpleasant scenes when I went to request my transfer. 'cause after he went I would have to shift to a quarter according to my designation. That would turn out to be very humiliating. It was not that I couldn't stay in a smaller quarter, it was the question of starting all over again in the same place.That and other problems compelled me to resign the day he was made the head of the unit. Everything was going smooth. For the first time after marraige I was having a life of my own, going out with friends, shopping ,travelling,visiting children whenever they needed me etc. Then one fine morning my husband left his 27years of his association with his old firm and joined a new concern in south india.Itried my best to adjust to all the different working conditions,but instead of appreciating my efforts my husband had negative comments for me. I happen to be a social person ,making friends and helping people, interacting with any grade of society so long as some useful activity can be achieved. But at this new place the whole scenario is in stark contrast to what was in other north indian plants .The biggest constraint is the language.With no one to talk to ,I gradually becoming depressive. My phone which used to be post paid has been changed to pre paid.So each time I make a call to a friend I'm immediately reminded of the amount of money ihave spent on that talk. So I've stopped calling my friendas.I tried taking up a course but nothing is nearby. You have to travel 30 kms everyday to a shabby class all crammed up to learn computers.Ileft that too.The only consolation is my daughters arrival who is awaiting her posting in Nov.She is a good company but how much can she provide me company. She has her own friend and youthfull activities to look to.My son who is posted to metro, is very uncommunicative,under the pretext of being busy. He doesn't even have time to call me even once a fortnight.I had gone to his new establishment with the expectation that he will be happy with us ( me and my daughter), but it turned out to be very heartrending as he kept on snapping at me for everything I did, finally when I couldn't take the insult anymore , we returned by the earliest flight available.I keep on thinking about him ' cause try as much you cannot severe all ties with your children. There are months when I don't hear from him,unreplied e-mails ,calls not picked up.Then you come to know that he is not well. What will your plight be. When you ring up to advise him to consult a physician, he snaps back with the dialogue" that is the reason I don't tell you anything you start nagging ,and start spreading the news to everyone." Tell me how is a mother going to react to such a situation? If I tell my worries to my husband, he blames me for being very incompetent in managing my children.He won't talk but send me a mail about management tips that he has acquired during his profession.Do you think children can be managed on office management fundas? There's no dialogue between the father and children.He just comes home with his mobile stuck to his ears, has his daily quota of exercise drinks and food and off to bed. I've started feeling I'm living in a guest house with no bonding between family members.Ithink these are the reasons why the children are drifting apart,there's lessening of soft feelings towards humans,every body lives in a close knit world of their own. I feel a misfit in this materialistic world.My only happiness is a close knit family get together often and nothing more. Am I wrong in expecting these?

The hazard of reality shows

The other day their was a lot of hype created by the media of a news item , where a little (16yrs.) girl had fallen into coma after disqualification in a reality show. The whole genre blamed the judges without giving a thought to the general scenario leading upto or from the reality shows.
We should not forget that its the parents who push their children too far in realising a dream which they could not fulfil.
Can we forget an incident not very long back, when a father from bengal killed his son ( another small kid) in a fit of rage when he failed to win a tennis or badminton match of the state level. Which judge did we blame that time?
We are progressing towards a society where our soft senses do not keep much value in the society. Its the limelight that we are craving for .In our attempt to attain instant stardom, we are pushing our children towards a society which cares not for the sentiments but materialistic gains. If the electronic media is giving your children a platform to show your platform make use of it in a positive way,don't try to grab it by any means.
It's the duty of the parents to counsel their kids in such a way that they take it in a light way.If you win well and good if you loose doesn't matter.
Instead we've seen parents picking up a fight with the organisers of these shows once their prodigy is eliminated. what examples are we setting in front of our kids?They are made to think that if you cannot win the right way go for the wrong way of fighting your way in.
Where have all the restraint and tolerance gone?Where is the sportsmanship?Teach them to take defeat gracefully.They have their whole life before them. how far will you go fighting for your child,in each of his failures.?
Instead teach him to participate in every venture of his liking with an attitude of a noble sportsman,not a cunning contriver.
So the lesson is "the world will provide many opportunities, make hay, try your best ,if you win feel for the loosers and if you loose ,exit gracefully."

राज का Marathiprem

राज थाच्केरय का मराठी प्रेमआए दिन न्यूज़ में पढ़ने को मिलता है। कभी देखने को नहीं मिलता। क्या बात है?मराठी से उन्हें इतना ही प्यार है तो कभी मराठी लोगों के लिए कुछ भलाई करते हुए नही दिखे.जब दिखे तो मंच पर से आग उगलते हुए। लोगों को भड़का कर ,आपस का भाई चारा खत्म करते हुए दिखे.जो लोग आपस में इतने दिनों से मिलजुल कर शांतिपूर्वक रहा रहे थे उनके बीच नफरत पैदा कर के वो बहुत गौरवान्वित महसूस कर रहे हैं.जिन मासूम लोगों की मौत इस दंगे में हुई ,क्या उनकी आह उनको नही लगेगी?वो क्या सोंच रहे हैं की , इस तरह वो इलेक्शन जीत कर महाराष्ट्र के मुख्यमंत्री बन जायंगे.अगर इतना ही आसन होता तो आज तक सारे अंडरवर्ल्ड के राजा मुख्यमंत्री बन गए होते। हम अगर बुरा करेंगे तो बुरा हीन फल पाएंगे।
अगर उन्हें इतना हीन महाराष्ट्र से प्यार है तो वो मराठियों के लिए कुछ अपनी mehnat से क्यूँ नही करते? बारिश में मुंबई के रस्ते तालाब बन जाते हैं, कितने गरीब मराठी होंगे जिन्हें रोजी रोटी नही मिल्तिहै ,कितने गरीब बच्चे होंगे जो गरीबी के कारन पढ़ाई नहीं पुरी कर पाते हैं, लोकल ट्रेन में औरतों के साथ छेड़छाड़ होती है इत्यादि। इन सब समाज सुधारक कार्यों को नहीं करते बल्कि जो सब से आसन काम है ,लोगों को भड़काऊ भाषण से भड़कान, वोह बहुत जोर शोर से कर रहे हैं। इसमें इनका कोई mehnat भी नही लगता, लोगों को भड़का दिया ,लोग आपस में लड़ कर मर रहे हैं,और नाम रोशन उनका हो रहा है।
सच्चे समाज सुधारक कभीभी गद्दी की तरफ़ नज़र नहीं रखते थे.उदहारण के लिए, बाबा आमटे, मदर टेरेसा jean द्रेज़ इत्यादि.

Gujjars protest and students weep

Gujjar protests and university exams
It has becom a norm in India to show your protest by damaging government property.The protesters incite the police to resort to firing to quell the crowd, and then on the negotiating table they bargain for compensation for the injured or the deceased.If the ruling government is strict with them the opposition jumps in the fray trying to get some political mileage, by inciting the protesters.The Junta does not see through their intentions and unnecessarily lays down its life.Who is going to compensate for the students who could not appear in their final year exams and thus have lost on the other students who finished their exams on time and got their jobs.who will pay for the mental torture of those students who are waiting unendingly for the exams to be announced, so they can appear and go home in relief. Will Mr. Kirori Mal Bainsla compensate them or the Rajasthan govt.?Even if the reservation quota is given to them , how is it going to benefit the general category students who have undergone the trauma of uncertainty in their future?It is not only this year , last year too exactly when the university exams were about to start, the same reservation protest started to utter disgust of regular students.Can we not change this way of protest?Can we not segregate the education system under essential services ,like the health services,and see to it that itr is not affected by such pritests?All the politicians take the excuse of uplifting the state when they resort to such senseless protests. Do they ever realise that a state with a fractured education system can never progress . It will only harbour uneducated selfish politicians while all the brains will drift away to states who have education systems untouched by political protests.Why can't all our respected makers of country's laws(politicians) sit down together ,forgetting their selfish lust for power, and think of how India can be made to look at par with our international counterparts?Why do politicians in their ultimate in psycophancy promulgate lawsw( reservation)hich does no good to the general public but only raises their own psycophancy meter?I sometimes wish that democracy for once would function in its true sense and we would proudly say we are better than USA?When some politicians resort to some senseless misuse of public property( erecting self statues, celebrating lavish birthdays, installing unnecessary statues etc,) I sometimes wonder can't the highest office in the country ,the president , intervene and make them see sense?Iwish and I wish and I wish.Have the politicians ever wondered why we do not have any recent great men to erect a statue of, why only Gandhiji, sardar ballabh bhai, Nehru etc.?They have left us years ago. Why can't we become one Vivekanand,Gandhiji orBhagat singh?